A friend of mine recently told me about my ex coming on to her when he was still with me and after. I never blamed her and all my anger went to my ex. She told me in the nicest way she could and how much she wanted to tell me but was scared at what might happen.

However, she didn't tell me till around 3 months after we broke up. She was scared about what might happened and I understood why. There are people that take it out on the innocent. Just watching cheaters and the ones being cheated on almost always attack the other women/man even when they didn't know. I've always hated that.

This whole situation I feel has made my friendship with her stronger. She now knows she wont be blamed if such a thing happens again.

And I really loved him.

But really this could get really ugly for you or your friendship could become stronger.

Maybe watch some cheaters episode and bring up a conversation about it to get some of her view on those kinds of situation. Or make up a story of some one you "know" that's in your position and see what she thinks.

Good luck!

EDIT: I also saw something on t.v about telling a friend you don't like their boyfriend. One situation I felt was nice was a group of friends who all didn't think this one girls soon to be husband was good for her. They ended up telling her that just before the wedding. They just gave their opinion and made it clear that whatever she decided they'd stand by her and support her on it. She still went on to marry him and she appreciated her friends letting her know or something to that effect. I think it was Oprah >_>

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